Tired of waiting on your crush to step up to his rightful position as the man of your dreams? It's tempting to want to kick off the relationship by asking him out on a date, but is that the best way to get a guy?
If I asked you to describe your "dream guy", the word "timid" probably wouldn't leave your lips. For most girls, the ideal guy is a man -- someone who can stand on his own two feet, and help you stay on yours. A mousy personality just isn't attractive in anyone, especially in guys. Yet many girls jump to asking their crush on a date themselves, not knowing that this just encourages the guy to keep up the mousy attitude and put little effort in the relationship.
In today's ultra-feminist, 21st-century world, it is culturally acceptable for a girl make the first move in a relationship. Opinions differ greatly on this subject, but I think that it's ok for you to ask a guy out. Notice that I said it was "ok". I don't think it's a sin to ask your crush on a date. At the same time, I don't think it's the best choice for either of you. Why?
Men are supposed to be leaders. While girls don't have to be damsels on distress, we need to let the guys do their job. What you don't realize is that usually when a guy asks you out, it's something he's put a lot of thought into. It takes a lot of courage for a guy to ask a girl out. As my friend James told me, "One of a guy's biggest fears is rejection from the girl he likes." He has to get over that fear to ask you out in order to be the man in the relationship. If you do all the work for him, he's going to rely on you for the whole relationship. If you've made it that easy for him, he won't feel the need to do the work it takes to keep you with him.
Another reason to let him take initiative: you don't have to face any painful rejection. By letting him ask, you have the power to accept or decline his offer, and you know for sure that he likes you. No guesswork involved.
In short, letting the guy do the asking will help get the relationship off to a great start.
Is it ok to ask a guy out? Share your thoughts in the comments.